Friday, March 2, 2012

I should have known this time was coming..

Our son is almost 8 months old now (crazy how time flies!). He's starting to mimic everything we do, and although he can't talk yet, I think we would really prefer his first word to not be a curse word, lol.

To be honest, I really don't like the concept of new rules that magically, and out of nowhere, appear. This isn't my husbands fault because it's his right (as my husband, the head of our family, etc) to create rules where he sees fit. But still, I'd be lying if I said it didn't drive me nuts sometimes. I guess I like our rule list the way it is. I didn't want anything added onto it.

I should have known the day was coming when my husband would implement a "no cursing in front of our son" rule. I didn't know that the day would be this week though. It sort of took me by surprise, and even though I 100% agree with the rule, it's going to be a difficult one for me at first. My husband has (thankfully!) been pretty lenient with me in terms of that rule because it's really hard to stop cursing on the drop of a dime, and although I'm really trying, I've definitely had some slip-ups.

I don't curse all the time, and it's not excessive. It's usually when my frustration with something (primarily other peoples driving..) reaches a peak. So, because it's not super frequent, I'm hoping it won't be completely impossible for me to grasp ahold of this new rule (fingers crossed, at least).

This has already been a long week, and I feel like I've been getting in trouble in some form every single day (even though I haven't, that's what it feels like). Needless to say, I'm definitely hoping this new rule catches on in my brain very, very quickly because the last thing I really need right now is to get another spanking.

And, on a happier note...my awesome son can crawl now!! Looks like it's time to really start babyproofing the house!

Have an excellent weekend everyone!!

Chels

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  1. a thought that might help .. Quote : "Swearing is the effort of a weak minded person to display strength"

    Are you weak minded ?

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  2. @Daddy - Your comment contains a completely inappropriate question to ask to anyone, and since you chose to put this comment on my wife's blog, we're both offended by it. It's completely unnecessary, uncalled for and counter-productive.

    If this is truly how you feel or what you think, that's fine. My wife and I both encourage people to express their thoughts, opinions and experiences. However the manner in which you've chosen to express yours isn't helpful in any way, shape or fashion to anyone. Sharing your thoughts is wonderful, but it isn't necessary to do so with demeaning implications.

    Thank you for taking the time to read my wife's entry. I wish you nothing but the best.

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  3. Wow .. Let me offer an apology ..This comment was NOT intended to be demeaning in the least,it is meant to be a thought when feeling the desire to swear . When the feeling arises , ask myself " am I weak Minded" "

    I guess I was a little blunt and could have been more eloquent in my comment .

    My lil one is not allowed to swear , she is soundly spanked for doing so and the F word brings the belt no exceptions .

    Profanity is a pet peeve for me . So again I apologize for my " misunderstood " meaning

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    1. Thanks for your apology! I admit that myself, and my husband, took it a little too offensively when I first read it (and then shared it with him). I think he was reacting more to my reaction (which was offended) and I shouldn't have reacted so negatively right off the bat. I apologize as well. :-)

      -Chelsea

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  4. @Daddy - Perhaps my wife and I both misinterpreted your comment. If your intentions were harmless, then I apologize as well. Your comment came off as insulting to both of us initially, and I apologize for interpreting it in the wrong way.

    I came to the defenses of my wife rather quickly and perhaps a bit too aggresively. Thank you for clearing up the intention behind your comment. I appreciate your apology, I accept it, and I hope you can accept mine as well.

    Have a wonderful weekend, Daddy.

    -- Clint

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  5. My older brother and sister in law have a 20 month old son (adorable child, but then I'm a biased Auntie) who has a growing voculabulary. While over for dinner one night, he was feeding himself in the highchair and talking about various things. All of a sudden, he says, FORK, but it sounded like the F world. All the adults stopped talking and looked at the child, thinking, "oh boy, who taught him that one", until he said it again and held up a plastic fork to show us.

    It was a funny moment and we've told people the story since, but it does show how easily older babies and young toddlers can pick up words without knowing the meaning of them. So its a good thing that you master your own around him now!

    Awesome news that the little guy is crawling now! Before you know it, he'll be up and running everywhere!

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    1. Lol that's a cute story. :-) That reminds me of a few weeks ago when Clint was trying to get our son to say "duck" while we were at the lake. I had to explain to him that if our son said "duck" it probably wouldn't sound like "duck" at first...finally he got it, lol.

      -Chelsea

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  6. Hmmmm - I'm normally not one to recommend punishments or implements. So, by all means feel free to send this comment to cyberspace before Clint sees it. LOL.

    But, in our house we have a swearing rule that goes both ways it was started to help Dev and then has included me. Maybe it would help you guys.

    We cut straws into quarters but you could use marbles or just count, whatever works- you know what i mean.... for each swear word into a baby food jar each. (Hopefully it doesn't take that many.) Anyway, each evening we write five sentences for each bad word.

    "I will not swear ever (the kids say ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever you get the drift) again."

    Maybe since you are just starting with this new rule you could try something like this first before spanking for it?

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    1. That's a great idea. I think that would really help a lot of people. Thanks for sharing!

      -Chelsea

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  7. Hi Chelsea, This is an issue I've been struggling with for quite a little bit. My worst episode was about two days before we were married. It's something so so hard to break and well, one of the other ladies offered a brilliant solution - replace that or those words with something that is softer or pleasing to God. I've been reflecting on a line from Song of Solomon (here's the link to my post about what I'm trying http://moldedbyhim12.blogspot.com/2012/02/my-cursing-words-forbidden-ones.html)

    So far, I've not cursed - in front of him or alone. Each time I've come close, I just remember my quote and also how much it hurt Luther and it just fades out.

    Habits are hard but I wish you the very best. And I have heard those little ears sure do hear it all.

    Much happiness on your little one!
    Love,
    Isabella

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    1. Habits are really hard to break, you're right. However, I'm glad you were able to do so! I've definitely came a LONG way, although still slip up from time to time. :-(

      -Chelsea

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  8. ps - I didn't mean to offer any IDEAS for cursing punishments - the soap and castor oil are horrible; and since I've been spanked tonight - I'm still thinking they are worse. But the part about replacing the not nice word with a verse that is soft and meaningful to you (and Clint).
    Love, Isabella

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    1. Castor oil sounds REALLY bad, lol.

      -Chelsea

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  9. I never really was one for swearing before, perhaps the pressures of life became too much to bear (see my comment under injured head of household if you would like) and swearing seemed to express my emotional frustration better than anything else. It is a habit I started and a habit my husband is determined to break! I wish you the very best in your quest! Ironically, I have tried my very best to raise my children to be respectful and pure of heart and careful in their language choices. It actually hurts my sons heart when I use harsh language, he is nine. He actually said that he heard me call the dog "That d--- dog!," and because of that he thought of using "d---" when he stubbed his toe! What a guilt trip! I was kind of proud that he considered "d---" to be the most heinious and offensive words he could ever muster. At least I have been able to shelter him somewhat. : ) !! Anyway, all the best in this wonderful journey into parenting! You will probably ALWAYS feel you are falling short in some way and that is good because it usually means your heart is right on track, some of the best encouragement I ever received. God Bless!

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    1. It's a habit I started as well, unfortunately, and it's been hard to break. But, like yours, my husband has also been determined to break it and I'm grateful for that!

      Thanks for your comment!
      -Chelsea

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  10. I think it's really sweet how quickly your husband came to your defense here. I am pretty sure mine would have reacted the same way. It's funny how things get "lost in translation" online sometimes. Best of luck with the new rule!

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    1. He's pretty amazing, I must say. :-)

      -Chelsea

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  11. Hi Chelsea, I had to leave just one more thought to "ditto" Tessa's comment above. Your husband seems to be a very kind and protective man who tenderly watches over you. God Bless to you both!

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  12. I had a number of incidents in which someone's husband blasted me through the roof, if you'll pardon the expression. His wife had really insulted my mother years back, and I took her to task for that. He proceeded to come back and tell me I had no business speaking that way to his wife.

    I think Mother and I both learned -- I am the daughter of a single Mom who had a really hard and difficult life, both emotionally and financially -- that if you are confronted with strong married couples, you're open to whatever they toss at you. My husband routinely insults me in the most colorful language, often in front of the children, and when I defend myself I get more of the same from him, so I've learned to just ignore it and eventually he will stop. If someone insults me, he'd just laugh and say I deserve it, he'd probably agree with the person.

    I learned that there wasn't much I could do to defend Mom, either, if she was insulted, other than to comfort her.

    It's not a pleasant world for a single Mom, but every day I discover I have wells of inner strength I didn't know I had.

    I was away from this for a while, got curious and then came back to the blog. Think it's time for me to leave again -- it is getting too hard.

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    1. I'm sorry this is so difficult for you. I've seen you comment on a number of blogs (mine, and my husbands included) and my heart really does go out to you because I can see that you're struggling.

      If you need someone to talk to privately, please message me. I'm here for you.

      -Chelsea

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  13. Yep, I too have trouble swearing,
    Though @Daddy, wow you are rather strict, you must have a very obedient wife.
    He lets a few through, as I struggle with it. But having the rule alone makes we realise every time I swear. It's not often,
    But it's funny as I was never alowed to swear in the presense of my family.

    The other day my 2-year-old was watching tv on our laptop, and the internet stopped working and she sat there, sighed and said, 'damn'. I think she got that one from Grandad!

    all the best all
    Hope you are well,
    It's a lovely spring day here in the UK.

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    1. Lol, it would be hard not to laugh if my son said that!

      Hope you're doing well! Haven't talked to you in awhile. :-)

      -Chelsea

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