Friday, April 20, 2012

Spanking on the Cover of Newsweek!

While most of the competitors are writing about Trayvon Martin, the Korean Missile fail, the presidential election, Kim Kardashian's divorce, and why on earth Jessica Simpson has seriously been pregnant forever now, Newsweek decided to do something a little different this week. And, I have to say, I was shocked.

The premises of the article was based on the book Fifty Shades of Grey which has seriously taken the "non-DD world" and "DD world" by storm. I haven't read it yet, but if you have..I'd love to hear what you think. 

The headline of the article (even though it doesn't say it on the cover..maybe it's too controversial?) is Spanking Goes Mainstream. And, to some extent, that's true. From the popular Fifty Shades of Grey book to Anne Rice deciding to write a series on Dom/sub relationships that discuss spanking in great lengths, to movies, and now appears it won't be too long before domestic discipline is brought up in "mainstream". And, I have to admit, I think it's awesome. 

The article dives pretty deep in exploring why women would want a relationship like that, and although it doesn't specifically mention domestic discipline, it does mention submissive tendencies, and Dom/sub quite a bit. 

I'm curious what everyone thinks. To read the article (it's 4 pages, but worth it!) click here. Also, if anyone has read Fifty Shades of Grey yet, please let me know what you think. I'm curious! :)

Friday, April 13, 2012

Time To Spring Clean: Spanking Implement Style!

Last week, I embarked on the ever-so-fun task of spring cleaning. Our house is now super organized (just the way I like it!) which is awesome.

I was reading through a list of 4 things in my Better Homes and Garden magazine that are "rules for spring cleaning, decluttering, and organizing" and then it occurred to me that although I thought our house was organized perfectly and life was great, I still had some work to do in our bedroom closet. Why? Because that's where the spanking implements are kept, and ironically, some of those seem to fit perfectly onto the list of things I should be tossing!

Lets take a look.

Rule #1: Throw Away or Donate Anything That Hasn't Been Used In Over 3 Months: Hmm. See ya silent spanking cream!

Rule #2: Throw Away or Donate Anything You Never Look At Or Have No Use For: I have zero use for spanking implements. I never look at them. In fact, I try to do the exact opposite.

Rule #3: Throw Away or Donate Anything You Dislike: Yep. I hate all our spanking implements!

Rule #4: Throw Away Anything That Has Been Overused, Damaged, or Broken: Our wooden spoon is broken (hmm, wonder how that happened?) and I'm pretty sure the other implements have been way overused.

So, there you have it. I guess my spring cleaning isn't actually done.

Anyone want some spanking implements? I'll gladly donate them!

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Random Sentences About Crying

I want to cry.

It sounds like an odd statement. Usually when someone says that, it's the result of a sad or traumatic event that just occurred. Usually when someone says that, it's followed by "I want to cry because ___" (insert event in the blank). Sometimes when someone says that, it's because of something happy. However, when I typed that above, it was because of none of those things.

I want to cry because it's important in the aftermath of a spanking. Yeah, so if I said that to pretty much anyone on the planet who didn't practice DD or had never heard of DD, their response would be vastly different than I'm sure someone would receive if they stated "I want to cry" because of one of the reasons above.
The truth is, I've always struggled with crying. But, it isn't because of anything my husband does. My husband is a "good spanker". It feels kinda funny saying that, but it's true. He is. He knows what he's doing, and the spankings are definitely hard. For some reason though, pain rarely makes me cry. I mean, I gave birth to a child, completely naturally, without shedding a tear. It just doesn't make me cry.
I've been told time and time again how important the emotional connection is in the aftermath of a spanking. Yet, no matter how hard I'm spanked, or how badly I feel about something I've done, I can't help but think that crying is a sign of weakness for me. So, I've been working on that. I've been working on letting down those walls and showing emotions to my husband, especially after a spanking. My fear is that, if I don't cry, he won't think it was hard enough or effective enough, which is definitely not the case. 

This doesn't mean, in the several years we've been practicing DD, that I've never cried after a punishment because that's definitely happened. However, does it happen on a regular basis? No. Should it? Probably. Yes. 
I feel like, usually, when I get spanked I focus so much on getting him to stop "ow", "okay babe, really, that's good, you can stop now!", etc. and less on the actual pain. It's almost like a mental block. But, I've noticed that the times when I could cry (like this one) it was amazing. It made me feel so much better, it brought my husband and I closer, it released so many emotions and feelings of guilt, and it truly made me more remorseful and less likely to make that mistake that got me in trouble originally again. I miss those feelings, as strange as it sounds.

I recently spent about an hour reading C's Loving Domestic Discipline blog entry titled Releasing Those Tears. It examines, in depth, why crying and releasing emotions is so important during punishment. Although I'm still struggling with it a little bit, her entry has greatly helped. I encourage others to check it out if they are experiencing something similar to what I've been going through. It's long, but well worth the read.

I guess we all struggle with something. Hopefully I can update this post soon with the "problem" being fixed. I guess only time will tell. If anyone has any tips or has been through this, I'd love to hear you story!

Sunday, April 8, 2012

Happy Easter

Happy Easter from our family to yours!

Image courtesy of Smashing Hub

We hope everyone has a blessed holiday!


Clint, Chelsea and our baby boy