This has been a rough week, and a great week, all at the same time.
For a long time now (since before we moved to the east coast, before we had a child, etc) I have been wanting to build our dream house. For whatever reason, we haven't been able to do so yet (although we have talked about it). Well, finally this week, we decided to make it happen. We spent a ton of time researching areas, neighborhoods, schools, and lots and finally picked the perfect one. We're now in the "picking a builder" stage. It has basically consumed our lives these past few weeks and between this big decision and my husband being "full swing" into his new job, life is crazy.
Within all the craziness, I've still managed to do the usual (take care of our son, clean, laundry, errands, etc) but I've neglected one kind of important thing- eating.
When we first began DD, I never expected that I would hear "you're getting spanked for not eating" coming out of my husbands mouth. I don't "love food" or overeat, or anything to that respect, but I've always been good at eating when I'm hungry and not forgetting to..until lately. The hectic state that our life has taken on has really got me neglecting things like eating, and sleeping, and thus in turn has effected my health. Thankfully, not in a major way, but it still makes me dizzy or get headaches if I go all day long without any sort of food or drink and 2 hours of sleep. Needless to say, I'm beyond burnt out right now.
So, when my husband repeatedly said, day after day, "you need to eat lunch while I'm at work", guess what I didn't do? Eat lunch. I forgot, pretty much every day except the ones when I had to (he was home and we ate together). Over the course of a few days of basically not listening whatsoever to that, I got spanked.
I guess there's a first time for everything, but I really hope this is the last.
I have a few hats I'm going to wear for this comment; an older woman and mother, a NPA Sistah, and a friend. I want to you to see the look I'm sending you... ^o|o^ (imagine its a glare). Chelseaaaaaaaaaaaa!!! You cannot survive without eating! You have work on this issue, okay? (HUGS)
ReplyDeleteLol! You're right. I STILL struggle with it, although it's definitely gotten better thanks to your cute little text reminders. :-)
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I never thought I'd have to spank for this either. Sometimes unexpected things come up. New rule honey: Eat Lunch Every Day!
ReplyDeleteHopefully this issue doesn't come up again. It's an important one, and I know you understand why. Great entry dear. :)
Thanks babe!
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that comes under our "Take care of yourself" rule in our household. :) And oh wow.....good luck to your new building plans! My friend just went through this for the last two years and they are finally moved into their new home...but the road was long and hard and pretty difficult on their marriage. You have good tools to use though so that should help a bit with the stress!
ReplyDeleteBuilding a house is an extremely difficult process, you're right! Much harder than I would have imagined. But, it will be so worth it in the end. :-)
DeleteHope you're doing well Ashley!
-Chelsea
This is one big rule in our house. If you don't take care of yourself by eating and sleeping, how are you supposed to take care of everything else. Always take care of your basic needs so you can take care of others. Having headaches and dizziness really stinks. And as Christina says,as an older woman, mother and NPA sister, I find that I also need to glare at you and give you a lecture. Mommys need to take care of themselves.
ReplyDeleteYou're exactly right..sometimes I forget to take care of myself when I'm so wrapped up in taking care of everyone else. I definitely need to work on it still.
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I have to admit that you are not alone in forgetting to eat lunch. In fact, this is such an issue for me that my husband decided to make me get up early so that we can have breakfast together so that he can see me eat before he leaves for work. I have always been one to only eat at dinner time and that worked for me when I was younger but now that I am a busy mom chasing three toddlers all day I do get headaches, dizziness, and feel generally unwell so I need to break that habit.
ReplyDeleteBe good and remember to eat! Good luck with the new house!
I think it's great that you guys have breakfast together in the mornings! Maybe I should start doing something like that. :-)
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No kiddos to chase after here, but I get this one! Steve and I are in the midst of wedding planning with less than two months to go. Eating is usually the first thing that I forget about lately. I'm not sure he knows it yet but I guess we'll find out at the very least in a couple months!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations on your upcoming wedding! That's so exciting!
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A lot of homeschooling mothers of large families have no other option but to grab whatever leftovers they can manage to get after they have fed the kids, prepared what the husband likes, get their housework done and work on the school things. That is how it goes here.
ReplyDeleteWith my pregnancies, I was always very depleted. I had to chuck iron tablets like crazy because it was fast and quick and didn't require cooking another meal or standing up longer than I could manage. I had too much schooling and too many other things that I had to attend to. I simply didn't have any time to eat anything that wasn't convenient. Supplements are good for that kind of thing.
But nobody said marriage was easy. :-) It sure isn't, but taken in 24 hour doses it's OK. :-) And this isn't "martyrdom", just real life. My kids like pretty much everything, but my husband is a bit picky, so he likes specific things and isn't too keen on leftovers. It's not easy. I grab a bite quick here and there, and drink water in between if I can manage it.
Sounds like you need to eat too! I know it's easier said than done though, especially with having six children! I only have 1 and I struggle with it most days!
DeleteGood luck. :-)
-Chelsea
I am so new to this lifestyle . . . but I am punished for not eating as well, it is a biggie for us. I am glad to hear I am not the only one who struggles with this!! Our rule, since my hubby understands that I am busy two little ones and part time work, is that I need to at least eat two meals.
ReplyDeleteI think that's a great rule. It's the same one we have, and although I'm definitely not perfect at it, I've definitely been trying a lot harder. I think having kids (especially young ones!) makes it a lot harder. Trust me, you definitely aren't the only one struggling with this. :-)
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