Getting to Know Me

I've seen this survey going around on a few DD blogs and so I thought instead of writing an ultra boring "about me" post I would just do this in it's place. :)

One of my favorite sayings. It describes my marriage perfectly. 

•   What is your screen name? Hmm, I don't really have one lol. I'm plain and boring. I just go by my name (Chelsea).

• How long have you been practicing TTWD? 3 years, approx.
• What is your astrological sign? Taurus but I swear after reading the astrological description of a taurus, it's nothing like me.
• In what part of the country do you live? Utah. Before anyone asks, we aren't Mormon (although I have nothing against Mormons, and a lot of our friends are), I'm not in a polygamist marriage, I didn't get married when I was 14..or any of the other common Utah stereotypes.
• Do you have children? We have 1 absolutely gorgeous little boy who is almost a month old!
• Grandchildren? No..way too young for that, lol.
• What is your favorite color? Pink.
• What is your favorite day of the week? Saturday.
• Morning or evening? Evenings. I'm really not a morning person.
• Favorite TV show? That's a hard question. There's a lot I really like. I really like Teen Mom (go ahead and make fun of me, lol), Sportscenter (during football season), Army Wives (even though it makes me cry!) and The Office (when Steve Carrel was on it).
• Favorite pro sport? Football. Without a doubt.
• Favorite ice cream? Cookies n cream.
• Person from Blogland you'd like to meet? She isn't a DD blogger, but I'd love to meet Jenny. I love cooking, and her blog always has awesome recipes. :)
• Person from Blogland who makes you laugh? There's a lot. It's hard to pick just one.
• Person from Blogland who you identify with the most? There's a lot, but the first that comes to mind is probably His First Mate, just based on what I've read. Oh, and her favorite TV show is Army Wives too. Score. :)
• What are you wearing on your feet right now? Nothing.
• What are you listening to right now? This CMT Crossroads special (I think it's Luke Bryan and The Doobie Brothers..it's pretty cool, actually).
• Chocolate or vanilla? Vanilla.
• Coffee or tea? Coffee. I don't really like tea, unless it's Teavana. But coffee (primarily Starbucks...) is amazing.
• Favorite non-alcoholic drink? Strawberry lemonade or bottled water.
• Favorite alcoholic drink? Any of the fruity drinks, like strawberry margaritas, cosmos, apple martini's, etc.
• Favorite vacation spot? Fiji. Or anywhere else with a beach and warm weather.
• Favorite holiday? Christmas or my husbands birthday (yeah..I'm weird. I love my husbands birthday because I get to spoil him all day and he can't say anything about it, lol).
• Favorite season? Summer or fall.
• Favorite place to visit? Out of the US- Fiji. In the US- Waikiki Beach or Hilton Head Island.
• If you had to start all over again would you still choose to practice TTWD? Definitely.
• Best piece of advice you can pass on to others about TTWD? Start slow, and always be honest and communicate with each other. 

An Introduction.

Welcome to Knowing Your Roles!

My name is Chelsea, and I'm pretty new to the "DD blogging world", but not so new to DD. My husband and I have been practicing for a few years now, and met some amazing people along the way. Those people (some of whom have their own blogs) have inspired me to create my own (although, I think majority of my inspiration came from my husband). I've wrote a few articles (under the Woman's Perspective "series") over on my husbands blog, so some of you may recognize me from there.

I've never been very open about DD, which is weird because some of our close friends practice it, and my family even knows about it. Yet still, it's a difficult topic for me to talk about, whether that's with complete strangers or people I've known my entire life. So, my hope is that by starting this blog it helps me to "come out of my shell" a little bit. We'll see how that goes. :)

The title Knowing Your Roles is actually more of a joke between my husband and I that happens to appropriately fit for the DD lifestyle as well, believe it or not. My husband and I, on pretty much a daily basis, will jokingly use the phrase "know your role, babe" (usually in situations when my husband doesn't "know his role" and tries to make dinner..or if I try to take out the trash, lol) but even though we are joking, there actually is an element of truth behind the statement (even though I think, if said seriously, it sounds a little tool-like). Every marriage has defined roles (both in the DD-aspect, and non-DD aspect) and if those roles aren't held up (especially from a DD point of view), it makes DD rather difficult. For instance, if the husband fails to consistently punish or follow through with the consequences, or if the wife is constantly breaking the rules, it makes DD very frustrating for everyone. So, that's sort of where the title for the blog came from. 

My goal is to use this blog to dig a little deeper into your role within a DD marriage and also to help me to come out of my shell about DD a little bit and not make it such a taboo topic in my brain anymore. Oh, and meet more awesome people, which I'm excited about! 

-Chelsea