Two New Domestic Discipline Products Now Available Through Our Spring Promotions!!

You may have been expecting a “Saturday Stories” article today as part of the new LDD posting schedule, however we interrupt your regularly scheduled article for an exciting announcement:

THE LDD SPRING PROMOS ARE HERE!!

  That’s right – the LDD Spring Promos have launched, and they offer not one but TWO exciting new products!!

Consistently Inconsistent

Consistently Inconsistent is a brand new eBook from us, Clint and Chelsea, offered exclusively through theLearning Domestic Discipline promotion website.

DESCRIPTION: Being consistent with domestic discipline can be a challenge for a lot of couples, particularly when first starting out with the lifestyle.  It seems every domestic discipline couple struggles with consistency at one point or another, and, naturally, it can be extremely frustrating to deal with and overcome.  In our new Consistently Inconsistent eBook, we examine and break down the most common reasons inconsistency occurs and offer solutions to resolving an inconsistency problem once and for all.  It’s time to take a stand against the most devastating domestic discipline problem that couples face.  It’s time to take a stand against inconsistency and rid your domestic discipline relationship of it forever!

The LDD Beginner Boot Camp Workbook

The LDD Beginner Boot Camp Workbook is the companion to the brand new “Domestic Discipline Boot Camp For Beginners” eBook written by us, Clint and Chelsea, offered exclusively through the Learning Domestic Discipline website. 

DESCRIPTION: Outlined within the new beginner boot camp eBook is a comprehensive list of 25 relationship building exercises designed to promote and enhance important relationship components such as communication, trust, and appreciation (among others).  From this comprehensive list, couples choose a number of exercises to incorporate into their own personal boot camp experience.  This workbook provides sample templates and numerous helpful examples to help spring those homework assignments into action.  Everything a couple needs to complete the boot camp homework assignments is found right here in this workbook!

 

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The Spring Promotions also offer the following eBooks at special discounted prices…

Domestic Discipline Boot Camp For Beginners

DESCRIPTION: Domestic Discipline Boot Camp for Beginners is tailored for couples either just beginning the domestic discipline lifestyle, or those in the early stages of their domestic discipline journey together. Beginner boot camp includes seven exercises that cover all basic punishments within the lifestyle, and includes a comprehensive list of 25 “homework assignments” for couples to choose from that are designed to promote communication, trust, love, respect, and affection between partners. Two days and a loving commitment are all that are needed to establish a healthy domestic discipline plan for your relationship. Are you ready to get started on the path to a healthy domestic discipline relationship?

A How-To Guide to Domestic Discipline Boot Camp

DESCRIPTION: A How-To Guide to Domestic Discipline Boot Camp outlines an intense and challenging 2-5 day relationship experience tailored to more experienced couples in the domestic discipline lifestyle. The “no tolerance” policy within boot camp targets and establishes a healthy domestic discipline power dynamic, and addresses common domestic discipline issues such as inconsistency in the head of the household and repeat defiance from the submissive partner. Four spanking exercises per day of boot camp address and correct common spanking problems, and four “homework assignments” per day of boot camp promote and nourish existing relationship components such as communication, respect, love, and trust. The boot camp experience may be a challenge, but establishing a safe, healthy, and effective domestic discipline dynamic will ensure your relationship remains stable, secure, and happy for many years to come.

 

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  Don’t forget the other exciting news here at Learning Domestic Discipline, too – the LDD Retreat site launches soon! 

The Boot Camp Basics

Disclaimer: Boot camp is not for every relationship. It's actually really difficult (in my opinion) to tell whether boot camp is for you and your spouse, or not. It's something that you both need to agree to and something that I wouldn't recommend for those just beginning domestic discipline.


This is a topic that, for whatever reason, seems to cause a lot of controversy. I'm not sure why it is, but it seems like almost everyone who practices DD can fall into one of these 3 categories: completely agrees with boot camp, completely disagrees with boot camp, or is completely in the dark. There doesn't seem to be a lot of "middle ground".


For those of you who fall into the "completely in the dark" category, I'm providing a little "boot camp" outline for you. Obviously this doesn't include every single boot camp detail (because that would take me forever) but hopefully this helps.


I'd also like to say that there are many different ways to do boot camp. This is just one of them, but because it's the way that my husband and I did, it's obviously the only one I have personal experience with.


So, what is boot camp?


Boot camp is basically a multiple day (the HoH determines the length. I've heard of some couples doing it for 1 day, and some for as long as a week. My husband and I did it for 2 days.) "training" so to speak. The HoH determines the rules and punishments (which often times are more severe or more "out of the ordinary" than the typical rules/punishments the wife would have) and, in addition to the rules and punishments, there are homework assignments and random punishments (that don't necessarily have an offense tied to them) with "lessons" behind each one.


What is the reason a couple would want to do boot camp?


The goal is hopefully that at the end of boot camp you and your spouse feel closer together and have more defined roles. In addition, it helps the wife to be more respectful of both her spouse and the rules, and to increase trust. These outcomes often convince a couple who already has domestic discipline in their marriage to try and improve it.


How does boot camp work?


Boot camp is comprised of the following..

• Punishments (for breaking the rules set forth during boot camp, and a seperate set of punishments with "lessons" behind each of them).
• Homework assignments.
• Communication building exercises (usually this comes from the couple discussing the homework assignments after they're completed, etc.)

Boot camp typically starts with the HoH removing all of the wifes privileges for the duration of boot camp.


Each day of boot camp contains 4 spankings. These spankings range from mild to severe, and each one has a lesson behind it (no complaining, hold still, no reaching your hand back/kicking/making it more difficult on your husband, and understanding that it could always be worse).


Each day also consists of 4 homework assignments. Some of these are individual ones that just the wife does, and some are ones that both the wife and husband do together. There is a pretty long list of homework assignments that the HoH can choose from prior to boot camp beginning, but some examples of them are listing qualities you love about your spouse, listing ways that DD has helped to improve your marriage, etc. These are always written assignments (usually 1-2 pages long).


In addition to the homework assignments and spankings, each day the wife is supposed to "practice obeying" by not responding "no" to any of her husbands requests. Failure to do so would result in immediate punishment of whatever the HoH chooses.




So, that pretty much sums it up. Obviously there is more in depth details that go along with this, but there's a basic overview of what boot camp is.


If you have any questions, feel free to contact me and we can discuss it further.


Chelsea

Opening Up The Boot Camp Can Of Worms

It's a pretty well known fact that I suck with can openers (I think there's a video floating around somewhere of when my husband taped me trying to use our electric can opener. It isn't as easy as it sounds!) so..maybe that's why the "boot camp can of worms" has stayed pretty tightly shut. Well, up until last week when I started to open it just a little bit. I didn't really think the "boot camp" curiosity would explode like it has. Between the comments, emails (that both my husband and I have gotten), text messages, etc. people are definitely curious.

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I guess I should have known, when I wrote that last entry regarding boot camp, that people who hadn't heard of it yet would ask, which is fine. I should have been prepared to do a "here's boot camp 101" entry, but I wasn't and I'm still not.


I don't want boot camp to sound like some kind of super-secretive operation that only those with "insider knowledge" get to do. It's not like that. My main reason for not putting "boot camp 101" out there is because I really believe it's something that would create a giant firestorm of opinions and a huge uproar for some people. The other reason is I believe that boot camp is pretty much something that should either be recommended to you on a case by case basis, or something that you and your spouse mutually agree may be best for your marriage. It's also something that you need to tailor specifically to your marriage. There are many ways to do boot camp, and many "custom forms" and so writing a "boot camp 101" type thing really wouldn't even be benenficial because it can be changed, and should be changed, in many different ways depending on the couple and numerous other factors.


The reason I wrote that last entry on boot camp was really geared towards those who had already done boot camp (because it had been a rather "hot button" topic lately, and I'd seen boot camp posts on numerous other blogs). But the more I think about it, the more I think that wasn't really fair.


I'm still not comfortable doing a extremely detailed outline of boot camp because it's going to be different for every couple. However, I've decided I'll go ahead and do a basic outline of boot camp, for those who are thinking about trying it. I'll be posting that within the next few days, so stay tuned.


Before I sign off, I want to apologize if I made people feel left out about the whole boot camp thing. My reasons for not being so open about it are above, but still, I think it's a good idea to at least give people some information on it which they can then use (or not) to make a determination on whether or not boot camp would be right for them.


If anyone has any specific questions regarding boot camp that they want to see covered in that entry, please email them to me (my email is found on the contact me page at the top) or leave them in the comments below. Thanks!


-Chelsea

Boot Camp From The Women's Perspective

It's been awhile since I went through domestic discipline boot camp (like, well over a year). But, I got some requests for this entry, and so I thought I would write it anyway.



Boot camp, in one word, is rough. There's a lot of pros to it (which I will list in a second) but that doesn't mean it isn't still pretty challenging. However, I'm pretty sure it was meant to suck because the point is to learn lessons from it so that you never have to do boot camp again. And, I'm pretty proud to say that I haven't had to go through boot camp again and hopefully never will (although, I'm pretty sure with my latest stunt, I came pretty close).


If you haven't gone through DD boot camp yet, but you and your spouse are planning on it..here's my warning that it's pretty intense. For me, it was more emotionally intense I think, but for others I've heard that it's physically terrible. And, it is. Don't get me wrong. But emotionally, it makes you think a lot about yourself (which I hate doing) and the homework assignments within boot camp are pretty thought provoking and emotionally charged.


Despite the pretty intense spankings and the homework assignments (after just having been spanked..), I wouldn't take back the boot camp experience (I can't believe I just typed that, actually). But seriously, I wouldn't. It really added strength to my marriage, and improved my domestic discipline outlook and relationship as well. In addition to that, it built an unbreakable level of trust between my husband and I, and that, especially when using domestic discipline in your marriage, is key.


As strange as it sounds, I really didn't think I could love my husband any more..until we did boot camp. The side of him that I saw, although it was strict, was amazing. He took charge of situations where I'm pretty sure he didn't want to, he spanked me harder than I'm sure he wanted to (which taught me the ever so valuable lesson of "it could always be worse", which now makes me cooperate with every spanking I get to make it not get to that point..ever), and the list goes on.


So yeah, boot camp is rough. But, if you can get through a couple days (or, however long you do it for) of intense emotional and physical battles, it's so worth it in the end. It improves your marriage, even when you already think it's amazing, and it really changes your behavior (seriously, I'm pretty sure I didn't get in trouble, at all for like a good 4-6 months after boot camp. *sigh* those were the days..).


The best advice I have to someone getting ready to do boot camp within their marriage is the following..

• Trust your spouse.
• Find the positive in it. (It's there, you just have to look).
• Look at it as a learning experience.
• Look at it as a chance to not only strengthen your marriage, but also yourself. For both the husbands, and the wives, it pushes you to a lot of different levels..you're going to be amazed at the strength you have, and your spouse has.
• Just cooperate. Trust me, it's way easier that way.

If you've already done boot camp, hopefully you were able to see the same results that I have, or at least can look back on it and find the positive within it. I'd love to hear your views on how it went for you and your spouse. :)


As always, if you have any questions, feel free.
-Chelsea