Resources to Strengthen Your Domestic Discipline Marriage

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Happy Valentines Day everyone! In honor of Valentines Day and our domestic discipline-versary (which was last weekend!!) we have put together a list of resources to help you improve your domestic discipline relationship.

COUPLES CHALLENGES

In 2012 we posted one couples challenge per month on our original blog (Learning DD) in an effort to help strengthen domestic discipline relationships throughout the community. The Couples Challenges were (and still are) a huge hit with both beginners to the lifestyle, and those who are more experienced. Below we have listed the 12 couples challenges, and invite you to check them out.

January: Compliments

February: Addressing Faults

March: Appreciation

April: Spreading the Word

May: The Rules

June: Great Qualities Part I

July: Great Qualities Part II

August: Confessions

September: Planning Improvement

October: Spontaneity

November: Gratitude

December: Charity

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BOOKS

Below are a list of books (both domestic discipline, and non domestic discipline) that we feel may really help you with domestic discipline, being an HOH, being a submissive wife, or with your marriage/relationship in general. Whether you're new to domestic discipline or have practiced for many years, we hope you find this list helpful.

• Domestic Discipline Boot Camp for Beginners: This is our new eBook that is only available right now on a pre-release until February 28th. You can purchase it by clicking here, and every purchase enters you into our giveaway for a $100 Amazon giftcard. 
• Domestic Discipline Boot Camp: This eBook is geared more towards experienced domestic discipline couples. Like the above book, it is available for purchase here and each purchase will also enter you into our Amazon.com giveaway.
• The Love Dare:  We are big fans of Alex and Stephen Kendrick's book The Love Dare. The Love Dare is a 40-day journey to strengthening your marriage and although it does not specifically pertain to domestic discipline, a lot of the 40 day challenges will strengthen your core marital values which will transition over into domestic discipline. Whether you have been married 1 month or 50 years, we highly recommend The Love Dare which you can purchase (or read more about) by clicking here.
• The Excellent Wife: Written by Martha Peace, The Excellent Wife is a scripture based book that focuses on improving your relationships with your husband, your children and God. You can purchase the book here, or if you have an Amazon Kindle email me (using the Contact Us page) and I'd be happy to give you my copy (directly to your Kindle) for free using the Kindle Lending/Sharing program.
• The Surrendered Wife: Like The Excellent Wife, The Surrendered Wife (written by Laura Doyle) explores what it means to be a submissive wife, ways to strengthen your marriage, and teaches/walks through how to give up the unnecessary control (which is important in a domestic discipline marriage). Although there are some parts of the book that I don't agree with, overall it's worth reading if you're starting (or are experienced with) domestic discipline. You can purchase it here, or email me (by clicking the Contact Us page) if you have an Amazon Kindle and I will give you my copy for free directly to your Kindle.
• Family Shepherds  Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes: If you're a Christian this book is great. It focuses on examining why being the Head of the Household is important, how to lead your family, and how to improve or strengthen your marriage. There's also quite a bit about parenting, and the Bible, in it so if those both apply to you it's definitely worth reading. You can purchase it here.

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Websites/Other Resources

Below are a list of websites, articles, and other resources that may help you with your domestic discipline marriage. These are great if you don't have time to read a full book (like the ones above) or are just looking for a brief overview of certain domestic discipline topics.

• What is Domestic Discipline?
• Spanking vs. Abuse
• When the HOH Does Something Wrong
• The Spanking Implements Guide
• The Learning Domestic Discipline Forums
• Domestic Discipline Experience Project groups (Note: you can find others on The Experience Project by searching for domestic discipline in the Experience Project search box)
• Releasing Tears During a Spanking 
• HOH Emotions in Domestic Discipline
• Husbands Getting Started at Taking Charge
• The Learning Domestic Discipline Social Network
• Frequently Asked Domestic Discipline Questions (and you can find many more by clicking here)
• The Art of the Lecture

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If you have any website links, blog links, books, etc. that we missed, feel free to submit them to us! We would love to include them. You may do so by leaving it in the comments here, or by emailing us. 

Happy Valentines Day! We have an enormous amount of appreciation, love and respect for all of our readers. We hope that you have a wonderful Valentines Day!

-Clint & Chelsea

5 Things: It Has Been Awhile

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Awhile back I started The Five Things series. It’s since been picked up (and modified) by a few other bloggers and those are really fun to read.  I haven’t meant to totally abandon this idea though- life (and other Learning Domestic Discipline things!) just got really hectic. But, I vow to make more of an effort.

If you’re new to The Five Things series, here’s how it works:

• Write about 2 domestic discipline related things
• Write about 1 personal thing
• Link one other DD blog
• and link one website of the week (either DD or non-DD.. doesn't matter)

Those are my 5 things “rules” but a several people have adapted them to fit their own blogs and it’s awesome! If you want to join in the fun, send me an email at contact {at} learningdd.com (or use the Contact Us page) with your blog link so I can check it out. Eventually, when The DD Wives Club is up your 5 Things category will be added to that.

Usually the entire entry isn't this personal but that’s ok. Alright so let’s get started..

1. I hit my 3-month challenge mark on February 1st. And while that’s super exciting and great-unfortunately I have to restart this month. Apparently the stresses of moving (and everything else like unpacking our new house, chasing around a super active little boy, and more) have gotten to me and so now I’m getting spanked (tonight actually. Wish me luck everyone, because I’m totally dreading it). By the way, I highly don’t recommend launching a book promotion on the same day that you move into your new house at the same time that you have numerous people (TV, internet, etc. companies) setting everything up, while unpacking, while chasing your son, while trying to find time to go to the grocery store, while having your phone ring off the hook, etc. Let’s just say this past week has been chaotic. We haven’t even lived in our new place a week yet (in fact, it will be one week tomorrow!!) and I’m so ready for things to settle down. I guess, in the middle of the chaos, my behavior fell off track. It’s a bummer that our implements didn’t get lost in the move, huh? But that’s the beauty of domestic discipline- get punished, slate is wiped clean, and we all move on.  
2. Our DD Anniversary is in 2 days! Several years ago my husband and I embarked down the road of domestic discipline and haven’t looked back. It has done amazing things for our marriage, and it’s crazy to think how fast time flies. I’m still not sure yet what we will do to celebrate our DD-versary (or whatever the correct term for that is) but it’s exciting nonetheless. 
3. Our son is a genius. No, seriously, he is. He has learned so many words in the past few weeks it’s not even funny. He can say Target (because that’s one of my favorite stores so, obviously, I had to teach him how to say that), kitchen, hold me, and snack- those are his latest words for the week.  I’m a pretty proud mom. 
4. This one isn’t technically a DD-blog link, but have any of you read The Excellent Wife by Martha Peace? I’ve heard from several people that it’s a great book and it’s on my Kindle (along with like 70 other unread books that I really need to get to at some point or another) but I haven’t gotten too far into it yet. In the upcoming weeks I’m planning on putting together a resource page for books that are helpful to DD wives (such as The Submissive Wife and The Excellent Wife). If anyone has any to add please let me know! Also, if you want to join in our book discussion on the forums, feel free! We would love to have you. 
5. Raspberry Chocolate Chip Pancakes are totally not the healthiest thing in the world, but tell me that these don’t look amazing for Valentines Day? 

The Spirit of Chelsea

  Hello everyone.  This is Clint, Chelsea's husband.  She asked that I write a quick entry on her blog this morning.

  As you may or may not know, my wife has been hospitalized since Wednesday with some pretty serious health issues.  I don't feel comfortable disclosing everything going on regarding her health, but it certainly isn't anything life threatening or anything TOO major.  She can be treated and she'll fully recover, but it's going to take a few weeks for her to be completely back to "normal."

  The outpour of support through my blog, her blog, emails, Twitter, the network - you name it - has been overwhelming.   Words cannot express how thankful we are to have such a large amount of support from our friends in the DD community, and from those close to us.  Times like this make me realize just how many truly genuine, caring, and supportive people there are in this world, and that's always refreshing to see/hear.  So thank you all so very much for your overwhelming support.  We'll get past this soon.

  My wife also wanted me to make it clear that she has not "disappeared."  Lol.  She wants to continue blogging and continue being involved in the DD community.  Once her pain and comfort levels are tolerable, she'll get back to doing what she does so well.

  Once again, on behalf of my entire family, I'd like to thank you all for your support as we go through this difficult time.  I'm doing everything I can to get my wife back to normal health, and there's no doubt in my mind that she will come out of this experience a stronger, healthier person.  She has a knack for taking a negative experience and turning it into something positive.  That's just the spirit of Chelsea.

Enjoy the rest of your holiday weekend everyone.  Until next time.

I don't have time to get spanked.

The past few weeks have been hectic and I haven't had much time to write. My husbands work schedule is pretty much crazy at the moment, our son is extremely mobile, we're getting ready to move (hellooooooo new house on the beach!!), we're building a house, I got sick (and now I'm better), we've got a bunch of trips coming up and I could go on and on and on and on but you get the idea...we've been busy. So, with all of that, I'm sorry for my lack of ability to write.

Fortunately or unfortunately, depending on who you ask or how you think about it, DD doesn't really disappear during those times when life gets extremely busy. 

Because our life is so busy lately, fortunately or unfortunately (depending on who you ask, and how you think about it) if I make a mistake/break a rule, I haven't been getting a "major spanking". I have, however, been getting these "nightly reminder spankings". The point, I guess, is to remind me that I'm still in trouble, he hasn't forgot, and when our life settles down just for a moment, I'll get spanked. 

At first, his concept of "nightly reminder spankings" seemed like a really dumb idea. Just spank me and get it over with, right? However, as the nightly reminder spankings became more real, I realized that maybe it isn't so bad. The concept of it is actually pretty effective, even though it sucks to admit sometimes that my husband was right and I was wrong.

Thankfully I have been following the rules pretty well lately though! Well, at least I think so. There was that one time (or two times..) when I left my hair straightener on for like 4 hours and almost burnt down the house. But hey, aside from that, I've been an angel. :) 

So, after like 4 nights of him doing "nightly reminder spankings" and "cracking down to enforce the rules", I've definitely learned not to leave my straightener on for several hours. 

If your life is getting hectic (like mine), there are alternates to making sure that DD doesn't have to take a back seat. Just ask my husband, he seems to have no trouble at all finding ways around it. :)

And now for my random sentences...

Thank you to everyone who wished me happy birthday yesterday!! I really appreciate it! 


Yesterday (on my birthday!!) my son said "mama" for the first time. Not only did he say it once, twice, three, four times but he wouldn't stop saying it and he's currently been saying it all morning. I have to say, it is the best feeling in he world. 


Friday nights (that is tonight everyone!) are the Ladies Night chats in the LDD Social Network. It starts about 9pm eastern time, but feel free to pop in whenever, if you are a girl. :) We'd love to see you there! And, if you're not a girl..don't worry, there are men chat nights occasionally also. :)

At some point next week, I'll be doing a "Weekly Roundup" of the best DD blogs and blog entries on random topics. If there's anyone you'd like to nominate, please email it to me .


Have a FANTASTIC weekend everyone! Happy Cinco de Mayo tomorrow. We'll be celebrating with a giant rib cookout. How non-Mexican, right? Yeah..probably should have thought that one through a little more. 


-Chelsea

United We Stand

September 11, 2001- Never Forget


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