Tuesday, November 8, 2011

To the person in Buffalo, New York who I will allow to remain anonymous out of fairness

In life, there are going to be times when you disagree with people. There are going to be times when you think an idea is so crazy that you can't even wrap your head around it. It's how you handle these situations that show your character.

I actually don't have any issue with people who disagree with practicing domestic discipline within a marriage. My statement to them is really, really, really simple though: don't do it. Easy. If you think it's the most barbaric thing you've ever heard of, then don't do it. WHY someone would continually stalk (literally, stalk) someones domestic discipline blog (and no, this statement is not about my blog..) if they so adamantly disagree with it is completely mind blowing. In addition, WHY someone would claim they can tell everything about a person by one, seemingly small (but important) aspect of their marriage is also mind blowing.

I have a masters degree in pre-med and psychology. I am BEYOND aware of the definition of abuse. I really can't even tell you how many credit hours of courses I've taken that deal with abuse. I literally cannot understand how someone could consider a consensual, loving, and the list goes on...thing like domestic discipline as abuse IF IT IS DONE CORRECTLY.

I understand being against domestic discipline. It isn't for everyone. There are so many misconceptions about it out there it's not even funny. I think there are a lot of women (actually, men too..) out there who are jealous that they cannot (for whatever reason) have something like this in their marriage. I know that sounds odd, but until you try it, you'll never know.

I'm totally rambling, and I know that. This is the post of completely unorganized thoughts. But, there's a certain person in Buffalo, New York who royally sucks at covering up their spamming and stalking tracks (even while posting "annonymously") and this blog entry is being dedicated to you. Congratulations! You are getting the attention you so desperately seek. And, I have no problem doing it because I want you to see how ridiculously happy I am, despite you thinking I'm some abused housewife who lives with the worst man in the world. You have no idea how great my life is. None. Every single thing you think you know about me, and my family, is wrong.

Over the next few weeks, I'm going to break out of my shell. I've never been one that's been open to talking about be getting punished, but I figure why not just do it? Domestic discipline is hard, there are things that suck about it..but it makes my marriage great. So why not just be 100% open about it? And, it's going to drive my pal in Buffalo, New York completely crazy, make them think even more that I'm totally abused, and that's ok. Because, deep down, they know they would give anything to be able to find a life like I have.

I'm happy. I'm loved. I'm not anywhere near abused. I think my marriage is probably one of the best in the world. I think I'm beyond blessed.

The moral of the story: If you disagree with domestic discipline, awesome. There's a whole list of things in the world I don't agree with. Let it go. You're fighting a losing battle. There is no possible way on planet earth that ANY DD wife is going to stumble upon one of your "your husband is a sick spanko, you're an abused wife, and you're a piece of shit" comments and be like "oh my God, this stranger on the internet is right!! We must immediately get rid of domestic discipline". 

Just treat people with respect. My marriage containing domestic discipline as a small aspect of it is not hurting you, I promise. Actually, it isn't effecting your life at all. You need to find happiness, and I'm sorry that you haven't. I'm being 100% genuine when I say that I feel bad for you, and I feel bad for the fact that you have nothing else, or no one else, in your life to focus on and instead you devoute hours a day to reading, stalking, spamming, etc. blogs on a topic you clearly disagree with, and/or, are completely uneducated on.

I will talk to you, listen to you, and treat you with respect if you ever have any legit, and respectful, questions.




  1. Love it!! I am a very happy wife, too!!

  2. HeeHEE :) Don't mess with Chelsea. Shes got those mad tech skillz ;)

  3. Love it. I totally agree that it make my marriage a lot better but is only a small aspect of it. :) Love ya girl

  4. Way to go Chelsea! Can wait to see what else you have to say....:)

  5. No abuse here, either! Very happy woman and marriage! DD for decades so if this is wrong and I'm brainwashed, maybe its too late for me to do anything about it and I should just check myself into the hospital for treatment! LOL

  6. Sometimes I think people just want an attention fix and feel like their lives are in some way lacking so it's easier to spend time criticizing others than focusing on their own issues.

  7. I often have thought that with the unpopularity of what are known as traditional family values, everything is looked on very askew. Nowadays if we adovcate husbands being the heads of their families, with their wives being obedient and submissive, we are all thought of as inferior doormats. There is a certain number of people, and I fear it is the majority of people, who will decide we are oppressed and abused because our husbands are the heads of the families and maintain their authority.

    And most people who would have no problem with parental correction and discipline of children throw a fit when you mention a husband's correction and discipline of his wife.

  8. What are the Benefits of this lifestyle? I mean what you you get out of it? And how is this not S&M?

  9. Wow...clint is the man....he has you nice and brainwashed.

  10. I'm so sorry to hear this. My husband and I currently don't practice DD but I am trying to get him on board. However, I've run into similar situations. I enjoy cooking dinner for my husband, call me crazy, and I don't like going "out with the girls" for a huge night of binge drinking. I'ld much rather be with my husband. Well, at his previous job a female officer (he's a cop) became obsessed with the fact that I don't go out at night and cook him dinner. Let me also explain that I work a full time job and I'm going to school full time for my MBA. Well, this woman (if that's what you want to call her) got into his head so bad that he came home from work in tears!!!!!! Because she had him convinced that he was abusive to me because I cook him dinner!!!!! WTF!!! I still get angry when I think about. I wish I had the courage to tell her what I thought of her before I moved.