Last week I got in some pretty huge trouble. My post regarding it is scheduled to go up tomorrow (Monday) so check back then. I think that may have been another thing that prevented me from blogging last week..sorry everyone. :-( However, I'm thankful that it's behind us now and I can learn from it and life can move forward. Being in trouble really sucks.
In happier news, HAPPY FATHERS DAY to all the amazing dads out there. I'm grateful to have such an awesome father who makes me laugh and smile all the time. He's the hardest worker I've ever met, but also the most down to earth, laid back, and hilarious person. I love my dad. :-)
And, a special Happy First Fathers Day to my absolutely amazing husband. I knew he would be a fantastic dad, but he has exceeded all thoughts. If I had to create the perfect dad for our son, he still wouldn't be anywhere close to what my husband is. He's truly the most amazing person I know, and I'm beyond blessed to be married to such a fantastic person. Our son is probably the luckiest child in the world to have the dad he does. I wish you all could see the way his face lights up literally every time he sees his dad. It is precious.
Being a parent is a lot of work, but it's such a rewarding part of life. Happy Fathers Day to all the dads out there! I hope you have an absolutely awesome day with your children and your family!
I love your post and the way you honor your father. Your son is the luckiest child in the world to have the mom and dad that he has.
ReplyDeleteAw, thank you Cat! We are definitely blessed.
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I, for one of many, are very glad that you're alive!
ReplyDeleteLol. Love you Christina!
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~Hi Chelsea (part 1)
ReplyDeleteFirst time commenting on your blogg. Been reasearching stuff on dd a month or six weeks now. Particular been reading LDD blog from your husband. I left a few comments, got some very good enlightening infromation back. First time using a name, I have called myself another anonomyous, there were many anon people was confusing. I have really got a shock when I firtst encountered LDD. I had been wanting submission a long time, many times years past talked to my husband but it never really went anywhere apart from a playful thing - I always knew I wanted something serious but unsure what it was. A long period to time I kept it out of mind, until something dramatic happened one evening. I now understand in clearer way, my main problem in terms of behaviour, is bad temper, which and I hate to admit it is actually violent. I now have learned to drive and I just took of in the car (I was going an actual message) but I just stormed off, told no one where I was going nor when I would be back. I was away for hours did not contact home and came back really late. I gave no explanation to my husband who was a bit angry but too be honest who wouldnt be. I then got angry and stromed of again I didnt realise that I had his car keys as well as mine I eventually did go home and slept or stayed up in the lounge all night. I went to work next day. That evening when I came home, I was subuded and humble to my husband. I kept thinking about what I had done and fetlt really horrible - I eventually wrote my husband a letter and told him I basically needed some discipline and I really wanted him to punish me for what I had done - but it would have been a couple of weeks later when I gave hime that letter - it wassix pages long. As you can see I can talk. Anyway he read it handed it back to me a day or so later but that was the end of it. I felt really frustrated and that was when I began googling things some of which were disgusting and I knew I would not want. I stumbled on C's Loving Discipline and then somehow I think it was from there found the LDD blogg. I have never blogged or read bloggs and really don't understand facebook. Generally I just don't have time. I took a while to navigate my way around the LDD blogg - and your husband seemed to keep referring to your site but I just couldnt find it until a few days ago. I think I have managed to join or become a follower but I want to do that privately first. I have been agonizing about telling my husband about LDD and I have been trying to screw up the courage to talk to him about it and got some really good suggestions from your husband when I have left comments - I have actually tried to sort of live the lifestyle by trying to be more submissive and to do the things he wants instead of just arguing and challenging everything he suggests even if its just what to have for the tea. I have also printed out some of the bloggs like what is dd and what is it not etc, I eventually talked to my husband a few days ago and hinted back to my original letter when I asked did he read it he said yes but nothing more so I asked well what did he think and then he just said he thought I was stressed doing my assignments ( I have just gone back to college - why I am so busy) and he knew I was struggling with self control. I then in a vague way told him about finding stuff on the internet and that I have actually got some information from the internet printed which really explained where I am and what I feel. He said he would read it but only after fathers day. - it was from Christian Domestic Discipline and its called ' what your wife is really saying' I have made a hopeless first attempt at talking about this stuff to him but I hope he has got the essecnce of what it is all about - I know I am running out of space here so I will explain more next time. Jane
Ps please let me know what your think - I don't mind you posting what I have put here
Jane,
DeleteI responded to your other comments on the entry after this one, but I will respond to this one as well. :-)
I haven't read the "What Your Wife Is Really Saying" information from CDD yet, although I will. However, without reading it, I will say that I think it's great that you've done research prior to approaching your husband with this. I think it's a great first step.
Have you read through my entries regarding how to approach your spouse with the DD concept? If not, there's a lot of information in those entries that detail out my recommendations a lot more in depth. You can find those by clicking on the "how to talk to your spouse about domestic discipline" label on the right hand side of my blog.
There really is no way to force someone to be an HoH, or to accept DD as a part of your marriage (unfortunately). However, what you can do, is ease into it. A lot of times a trial run is really helpful (for both parties) and allows you both some time to ease into using this as a marriage tool. But, in order to get to that point, you have to get him to agree to try it and the best way to do that is by communicating which it sounds like you have started to do already.
It seems he has some hesitations, or questions, about it (but hasn't shared them with you yet, for whatever reason) and that's understandable at first. I would try just straight up asking him what he thinks of the information you presented him, and what his thoughts on this (in general) is. If your husband wants more information, or has questions you cannot answer, I'd be more than happy to talk with him.
Let me know if this helps.
-Chelsea