tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755215853816439022.post5081551966557017247..comments2023-04-01T02:13:28.710-06:00Comments on Knowing Your Roles: MisconceptionsChelseahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11758779727189037412noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755215853816439022.post-44830063082193714222012-06-18T13:21:55.389-06:002012-06-18T13:21:55.389-06:00I'm not in a DD marriage, and after reading ov...I'm not in a DD marriage, and after reading over mostly your husband's blog, as well as some other things I've found online, I don't really think it is the right thing for my husband and I. I had no idea that this was a lifestyle at all until very recently. Having said that, I think that your husband explains it all very concisely and makes the lifestyle understandable for someone like me who had no idea that this sort of thing was going on. <br /><br />At first blush, DD appears to have the potential to be abusive, but Clint explains it in such a careful way, I really appreciate all the times on his blog that he cautions against being belittling or demeaning. I'm glad that you guys chose to be public and to council others who choose to do this and to point out that if a couple mutually consents to this sort of relationship, it can be done without being emotionally abusive. I would bet that your guidance has helped more than one couple who is choosing this path to not cross that line into emotional abuse and just plain cruelty.<br /><br />I don't choose this for myself, but after reading your blogs, I get why you and your husband do, and I respect your right to make that choice. In my humble opinion, it is quite a compliment to you and your hubby that can make something so controversial make sense (not agreeable, but understandable)to someone like me. Feminism, after all, is about women being empowered to make choices for themselves. I don't see you going on other people's blogs telling them they ought to practice this. I think your choice should be respected as well. I'm sure you get a lot of criticism, but I just wanted to tell you as an "outsider" to this, I believe you deserve to have your choice respected....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755215853816439022.post-3368017360046165532012-02-13T18:19:24.464-07:002012-02-13T18:19:24.464-07:00Well this is a subject that is near and dear to my...Well this is a subject that is near and dear to my heart.<br />As someone who has desperately needed this learning blog; let me say how glad i am that you and Clint are here. Both my husband and I have come back repeatedly to find answers and solutions in the last 7 or 8 months. Otherwise, we never would have made it through the last year together. <br /><br />We searched sites prior to this and we're shocked at most of what we found out there. By the time we picked our way through the hilarious, the sick, the depraved and the porn, we finally changed our wording on google and found you. <br />I don't care how long you've been doing dd. Thanks for helping the rest of us find our way.Aprilnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755215853816439022.post-30210936889693686952012-02-10T06:13:04.092-07:002012-02-10T06:13:04.092-07:00Just some thoughts on misconception #1 - maybe thi...Just some thoughts on misconception #1 - maybe this stems from the way you and your husband present information? You may not have intended to set your selves up as "the DD experts" but you do offer a lot of advice and your husband's blog in particular is certainly looked at as a resource on "how-to" or "how-not-to-do" DD. Some people are looking for exactly that, while others get upset...perhaps because what you promote looks different from their DD relationships? Just a guess. Anyway, I think criticism is going to come with the territory and you shouldn't let it get to you. If lists and recommendations aren't your cup of tea, there are so many other blogs out there offering candid stories and experiences full of emotion. Hopefully your harassers will stumble across one of those and leave you and your husband alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755215853816439022.post-48045310784397286832012-02-09T17:37:32.796-07:002012-02-09T17:37:32.796-07:00Very nicely written - and I agree with everything ...Very nicely written - and I agree with everything you said. I didn't know you had been practicing for four years though....Ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00797273349419240025noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755215853816439022.post-66033078512695829622012-02-09T17:24:14.258-07:002012-02-09T17:24:14.258-07:00Bravo! Chelsea I agree 100%
I am thankful you gu...Bravo! Chelsea I agree 100% <br /><br />I am thankful you guys stepped up when you did and started "giving advice".<br /><br />Some times people are held back by their lack of qualification, and it never happens. <br /><br />(Which I feel is nonsense anyway based on the sound advice anyone who has actually read Clint's blog can see.) <br /><br />So many of us have been impacted in a positive way by the Network, that You and Clint have put together. No one else has been able to do what you have done and seriously, why can't we all just play nicely?<br /><br />None of us are all going to do things exactly the same. Some of us are going to do things the way Clint recommends and some are going to do it the way they read some where else and you know what? Some of our HOH's don't read at all and they call the shots and are going to do it the way they want anyway...<br /><br />We do what we do- and we all call it something else, it really doesn't matter. <br /><br />What matters is having a community where we belong. Where we can live openly. Where we can feel normal. Where we can talk about what we are going thru, ask questions and grow.<br /><br />Thank you guys for always trying to keep the network going and before that just the blog, and for being so positive, we know that you put your own time into it and really get nothing out of it. There are many of us who appreciate it so don't listen to the rest of them. <br /><br />they are not happy unless they are miserable and stirring trouble- you've met them in R/L too right?Pattyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02140586894727909077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2755215853816439022.post-12345280925699306352012-02-09T14:56:30.944-07:002012-02-09T14:56:30.944-07:00well said Chelsea! Glad your little guy is feeli...well said Chelsea! Glad your little guy is feeling better!His First Matehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11736498752779288368noreply@blogger.com